Say what you see…

My daughter loves Catchphrase. If you don’t know what it is it has the phrase ‘ say what you see@ where you have to guess the common phrase using pictures and animations gif style.  Explanation here.  Here’s an episode too!

I also found this wonderful website with some different say what you see brain teasers.

I love these as they are a reminder that we all see the world from a different point of view.

Those filters that we use on a daily basis are what allows our subconscious/ autopilot to work.   When we are not aware of these in ourselves we can sometimes feel angry with others, frustrated, upset  and on edge.

The thing is we are responsible for what we see in this world.  We get to choose how we filter things. When you think about that for a while it can seem a little overwhelming. But by really allowing it to sink in, you start to think.

I love these descriptions of the words perspective as given by https://dictionary.cambridge.org

perspective noun (THOUGHT)

C1 [ C ] particular way of considering something:

get/keeps things in  perspective

C2 to think about a situation or problem in a wise and reasonable way:

You must keep things in perspective – the overall situation isn’t really that bad.

puts things in(to) perspective

C2 to compare something to other things so that it can be accurately and fairly judged:

 

Now all three of these are perfect when you want to start to think about things differently.

My two favourite questions to ask when I’m interacting with someone is

  1. Where do you think their emotions behind the words are coming from at this moment in time?
  2. How is this person going to help me learn more about myself in this moment?

They seem like simple questions but they can be quite complex. You’ve got to first of all put on your JEANS

J- Remove all Judgements

E- Explore your Expectations.

A- Be Aware of the Actions, Atmosphere and Aura

N- What Notions are at play here?

S- Self...- How am  I connected to all of this?

It’s kind of like the art that I create.

I try to draw things from a range of different perspectives.

I’ll use the picture below as an example.

Here I made all the circles the same. My expectation was that each one would have a slight variation but that quickly changed.  I had to ignore the judgements I made about the imperfections in the drawing. I ensured that when drawing it the atmosphere was optimum, using mantras and music to support the cleansing process.  The notion was that I would create a form of art that would be mesmerising, engaging and complete. My connection to this was from the fact that I wanted to use circles.  I wanted to represent the cyclical nature of things. I wanted to show that I can persevere through

things that look like hard work. c

 

 

I believe Art is a way of helping us with our perspective.   You can  do some mindful colouring using this sheet.  Click here for your copy.

It helps us to explore things from the range of angles.

Art is definitely going to help with the 2019 Perspective journey. ( Read more about it here). 

 

Now what?

  1. What helps you see things from a different point of view?
  2. Are there any areas where you need to work on the way you need to practice putting on your JEANS?

Write your insights below in the comments section.

3. Remember this Mantra: 

“I can see things clearly when I put on my JEANS.  I remove all Judgements, I explore my expectations; I am aware of the actions atmosphere and aura; I question the notions which are at play and I look at my self. “

Regards

Sy

 

Sources:

http://www.eyetricks.com/swys/swys0101.htm

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catchphrase_(UK_game_show)

 

Perspective 2019

Perspective- one of my words of the year.

The hanged man.- this was one of the cards I picked out for me in  2019. 

It was a match made in heaven!

From the Rider Waite deck.

 

I chose the word after  I had one of those Subconscious override momentary blackout (SOMB) while I was driving.  

You know the ones where you have no idea how you had travelled the 200m and then realise that the lights changed, and you’ve changed gear and everything- yet you were totally unaware?  

It got me thinking of how many times a day this happens. Not just driving.

From the food I choose to eat.

The words I choose to speak. 

The thoughts I choose to think.

Where does it all come from?

So this year is all out that.

This year I vow to question everything.  

As Abraham Hicks calls it contrast is everything.  

The concept of duality is seen in the Taoist philosophy.

Ying, Yang.

Black white.

Up down.

So my mission this year is to see things from a range of angles.  

What I used to think as normal…. I will ask the question why?

If I show a resistance towards something I will question it.  

Beliefs, ideals, ambitions.

It will all be questioned.

Taken from thesaurus.com here are the synonyms for perspective are

  • angle
  • aspect
  • attitude
  • context
  • mindset
  • prospect
  • viewpoint
  • headset
  • landscape
  • objectivity
  • overview
  • panorama
  • proportion
  • relation
  • relativity
  • scene
  • vista
  • broad view
  • frame of reference
  • relative importance
  • size of it
  • way of looking

 

As a Maths teacher I’m loving the concept of looking at thing from a ‘different angle’. 

A bit like a selfie- can I find the right angle to understand what is going on? 

With an infinite number of angles why wouldn’t I want to see things from a different Point of view?

So in 2019 I’m committed to

Pausing. Questioning. Getting curious. Thinking of the polar opposite and then deciding.

But for now I’m going to choose the 6 things I want to change my perspective on

  1. What I eat?
  2. How I move?
  3. What I can create?
  4. What and How I can learn?
  5. New ways I can restore?
  6. How might my feelings about things change if I look at them from this different perspective?

 

So Happy New year Everyone!

Now what?

  1. What do you want to start looking at from a different perspective?

Download this sheet and write down your ideas.   ( It’ll take 10 minutes)

Click here for your free perspective planner 2019

 

2. Write down any insights that you have had from your perspective planning and this blog post in the comments below. 

 

3. Repeat this mantra to help you start to include more perspective in your life.

As I look at things differently, I see my world changing, working to give me my best life yet.

 

4. Don’t forget to download your free desktop calendar – Download below.  Just right click. Save image. Then set the image as your desktop. 

Your January 2019 desktop calendar- May you recieve the light you need to see things from a different perspective. As I look at things differently, I see my world changing, working to give me my best life yet.

 

Procrastination and Stickynotes

I am actually on a post it ban right now. 

I had to make a solemn vow NOT to purchase any more of those wonderful sticky note thingies. 

I am a bit obsessed.  Not anything fancy. Just the newest coloured set. 

Yes, I keep post its in my handbag…don’t judge!

They just sit so neatly on a page and I can use them to write just one thing, or many things onto them. 

Some may consider this a waste. 

I choose to call it part of the creative process.  Well that was my way of phrasing it. 

I have to agree that my obsession with buying different post its was actually a way of me procrastinating.  Yep, that little thing that you do when you pretend to be deep into the creative process, but actually you are using it as a distraction because you don’t want to take the next step. 

How many other people do that? 

Plan. Plan. Plan. End up with a boat load of post its, sheets and workbooks. But don’t actually do anything with it?

A number of post its with random ideas. Great for cultivating creativity but where do they go?

That’s why I’ve committed to the following:

  1.  Realise how much I’ve wasted money on these things. 
  2. Make a vow is not to purchase anymore until I’m down to my last set of 60. AKA. Knuckle down and get stuff done. 
  3. Just do something. 

The post it’s now represent something else.  My connection to me.  No longer pushing my creativity aside.  But harnessing my passions so that I can create a life and living that I love ( Marie Forleo quote there), by incorporating the things that I love. 

On dictionary.com Passion is defined as

passion

  1. any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, as love or hate.
  2. strong amorous feeling or desire; love; ardor.

That’s what I want to bring to my day. That’s how I want to feel every time I do something.  That’s how I want to create.

An example of my excess planning

So in order to channel that passion correctly I’m going to have to take it easy on the post its. Take the time to go inwards.  Take the time to really think about how I want my passion to show up in the world.  As myself some serious questions. 

  1. What do I enjoy doing? 
  2. When do I feel most alive?
  3. What are you interested in?
  4. What am I most proud of?
  5. What do I want to be known for?
  6. What would my ideal day look like?
  7. Why do I want to do what I want to do?

As you can see I’ve got a lot of homework to do over the next few weeks -while on my post it ban. Every time I use one of those things I’ll be asking myself am I doing it for progress or procrastination. That alone will make a huge difference in the approach I’m taking to create the life that I want. 

So now over to you.

Is there something you procrastinate with when you should be progressing on something?

It’s ok if there is. Just bringing awareness to it, is often all that is needed to make a subtle change. I’d love to hear what it is. Just pop it below in the comments.

So long post its 

Always 

Sy

I was so proud of her today.

Ok, so is it weird that I just got schooled by my 10 year old?

She told me what for.

Like unequivocally told. 

You see she’s been doing this coding project for the last 10 weeks. She bought it home over the holidays to work on it. Of course I was fascinated by it.  I was extremely proud of what she had produced. It was phenomenal the progress and innovation she had shown.

I asked questions.

I showed interest.

I made suggestions.

I inquired.

I bought things.

I made sketches.

I said things like… but what if… or why not try.. Or have you thought of…

Each time she listened tentatively.

She said ‘O.K’

She agreed.  

She nodded.

She frowned.

But do you see anything wrong with any of this?

 

Yep.

You guessed it… basically for 5 days straight it became my project!

I took over.

Somehow, I must have had some unfinished business because I was able to make it all about me.

My wants.

My desires.

My wishes.

Anyway. This continued.

I was blissfully unaware.

That was until….it happened.

Anyway, back to the event.

So midway through cleaning her room. I mentioned creating a net for the object she was making. And then came the words spoken so clearly, truthfully and authentically

 

“ Mommy, ever since I bought my project home it feels like you have been taking over.

I like my project just the way it is.”

 

I had several ways this could have panned out.

 

Angry, defensive Mom

What on earth are you talking about? ( Rage)

How dare you speak to me like that? ( More rage)

How rude and disrespectful.  ( Blame)

Blaming anyone and everyone but myself. ( Blame)

 

Sad, hurt  Mom

Oh my gosh. She doesn’t want me anymore.She’s all grown up. ( Disappointment)

Sobbing. Acting stroppy. Blanking her out. Feeling unwanted. Feeling upset. ( Hopeless) 

 

Jealous playing stories in her head Mom

Oh she would rather be with her friends. ( Hopelessness)

She doesn’t want me to be involved.  I can’t do anything right. ( powerless)

However, this was My response

“Ok, honey. Thank you for letting me know.”

 

Smiling as I walked out of the room full of LOVE and positive feelings. 

Smiling because my daughter had just spoken freely.

She had used her voice.

She was being brave. She had the courage to stand up to me and say what she truly felt.

I was so proud of her.

She had just cast my reflection right  back at me.

Luckily with all the work I had been doing I was able to ask myself some questions.

Why was I doing this?

Was this me trying to build some connection with her?

Was this me craving connection from her?

Was I blissfully unaware of my colossal take over because I believed I knew better than her?

Was I knitpicking?

Was I being a helicopter Mom? Is that what they’re even called these days?

Why was I making this all about me?

 

I never would have asked these questions 3 years ago.

Two years ago, I was starting to make a difference.

Maybe I would have thought about it, but I never would have been able to react like that. I’d be angry mom, or sad mom on a good day! 

I guess my journey has meant that I am now able to cope with things better.

I guess this is courage.

The courage to find out the answer.

The courage to act upon the truth.

The courage to hear the truth.

I’ve been working so hard to learn more about myself.

To find out about who I am in this life.

To explore being the happiest, most empowered, free version of myself that I can be. 

Maybe her exuding all of these characteristics were what was resonating back to me. That’s why I was unable to argue with it. 

That’s why my only response was to say OK.

That’s why I had no other choice but to look back at my reflection and ask myself the questions.

Ironically the card I drew today was The Hermit. Looking inwards. I think that this was the opportunity for doing that. 

 

Now over to you.

Are there any opportunities for you to take the courage and stare back at your reflection?

Are there any questions that you need to ask yourself? 

Write your answers in the comments below.

If you like this then please share it with people who you think would benefit from reading this.

As always

Take care

Sy